Welcome to The Seed of Joy - JRM's Oeuvre, a lifestyle blog! This seed primarily sprouts up narratives touching the essential spheres driving life - mindfulness, self empowerment, cognition, inspiration, motivation, spirituality and anything that makes you cherish JOY - inside and outside. :)

With intention to inspire and edify the readers with each post, JRM pours her heart out reflecting her emotions, expressions, perceptions, excursions, philosophies and experiences through her poetry, quotes and photography... all which binds together as memories - sweet, sour and beautiful!

"The best thing about Memories is that We can simply create them Anytime!" © Jyotika Rajput Mehra

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Thursday, January 29, 2015

My Story of “And”…Where I Transcended My Own Horizons!

She is the culmination of Courage & Compassion…
She is the pillar of Power & Purity…
She is the blend of Beauty & Brains…
She signifies Strength & Simplicity…
She exemplifies the Goddess who is the creator of this World!
She is the "Woman of Substance"… and the World glorifies her Grace & Guts…!
 ~ Jyotika Rajput Mehra Poetic Quotes

History is evident that one label cannot encapsulate woman’s potential. Indeed, be it me or any woman on this planet, our true potential transcends the horizons of limitations to achieve the impossible. My heart is overwhelmed with the sense of gratitude towards the Almighty who created me as a Woman! Yes, I am the “Woman of Today” – Independent, Confident and Courageous! I am Jyotika Rajput Mehra...

Let’s hear that sound of rewind… 

My story of “and” began when I tied knot with my soul mate foraying into the world of more responsibilities and labels. In no time, two new dimensions – “Wife” and “Daughter-in-law” found a place on my slate of labels. Well, I was all-prepared to face the challenges that could arise due to the culture clash between the Punjabis (my in-laws) and the Non-Punjabis (my parents). But the thought of staying in a joint family literally gave me goose bumps! 

Pretty soon I was able to carve out the difference between the distinct life style, language, traditions, basic routine, home chores, etc. Gradually I made myself adapt in the new environs with the new people, realising that the most essential part was to learn the Punjabi-style cooking!

My mom-like mom-in-law (whom I lovingly call “moma”) taught me how to cook almost all the desired dishes belonging to the Punjabi cuisine… and like an obedient student, I learnt all the teeny-weeny ways of preparing the rich-cultured gourmet. 

It was during this time phase that I observed myself transforming from a girl into a woman – fulfilling the desires of others before mine. I felt a sense of maturity infusing into my blood to handle more responsibilities and a sense of happiness in doing the same. Yes, I transcended my own horizons... Thanks to my “happy-go-lucky and curious-to-know” outlook! 

I enjoy each day learning something new – be it personally or professionally! Being an affectionate daughter, a concerned sister, a loving wife, an obedient daughter-in-law, a lovable friend; I am also a home-maker, a working professional, an ambitious writer, an ardent poetess, a fanatic dancer, an active Ping-Pong player, an inquisitive cook, a budding blogger, and I am working in endeavour to add more feathers to my hat. Feels blessed to possess such a multitude of labels...
Its Me - Jyotika Rajput Mehra circa 2014
Companionship of my loved ones fills my heart with a sense of gratitude and happiness that impacts my potential to grow. My actual strength lies in the faith of my family and friends in me.

I highly value these people for being my support system. It is only their love and care that has truly made me “who I am”… always encouraging me to realise my ambitions and adding the “and” to my labels... making me believe – “Yes, I can…!”

Now, It's time for you to use your AND and take a STAND, today!

This post is a part of #UseYourAnd activity at BlogAdda in association with Gillette Venus“.


* Author of this post reserves rights for the written content source being original work of art. Please do not copy without permission. ©Jyotika Rajput Mehra

* This post is purely based on the author’s feelings and perception, the purpose of which is to inspire the readers to take their stand and make their own identity. It is a gentle reminder for all to listen to their heart, follow their actions and take charge of their lives today.

Sunday, January 18, 2015

Stop the Inequality - Begin the Revolution Right From Your Home!

When it comes to stopping the inequality, the revolution has to begin right from our home.

Indian women have been the victim of this prejudice from even before the independence. The male dominated society has always shunned women from stepping out of home, earning money, enjoying, etc. Thank God, its 21st century and times have changed…! The weak voice now exudes strength and confidence kicking out fear. Women have raised the curtains and stepped out of the locked doors to showcase their talent to the world.

However, stains of the male dominated society’s ink are still not completely washed. The irony is that though today’s women walk along with men hand-in-hand assuming no task to be small but never did they encounter the same gesture in return. I strongly condemn such an unfair deal. 

For instance, running a home is actually a shared responsibility of all those who are staying there under one roof – working, non-working, children, adolescents, oldies. It is has to be a collective effort to take charge of all the home chores…from the nitty-gritties to the major ones!

But we Indians hold a strange belief where the women alone have to take charge of almost all the domestic chores – regardless of being working or non-working! Truly ironical… isn’t it! 
More than 2/3rds of Indian women feel, there is inequality at home, between men and women.

From, cooking to cleaning, from washing clothes to making the home look beautiful, from looking after the children to being socially active among the relatives– all such tasks fall in women’s “To-Do List” by default.

In an attempt to manage house and work, women often fall prey to the deadly depression and stress which gradually leads to anxiety and lack of self-confidence, subsequently followed by numerous health-hazards. Apart from the ill-effects on health, the relationships are also deeply impacted.
Today's Super Woman
A survey reveals that the women in emerging economic and social markets are more stressed than those staying in the developed nations. 85% of working Indian women feel they have two jobs, one at work and another at home. 73% of married Indian women feel, a man prioritises relaxing over helping with household chores.

Looking at the heart tearing scenario in India, a volcano of questions erupts in my mind –
  • When women are not less that the men in any regard, then why this inequality persists?
  • Is managing the household chores only a woman’s duty? Why cannot the men take some charge?
  • Is Laundry only a woman’s job? Why cannot the men too share the load?
Few Statistics…
  • 76% of Indian men feel, laundry is a woman’s job.
  • More than 2/3rds of Indian men prefer to watch TV than to do the laundry.
  • 77% of Indian men, depend on women for doing the laundry.
In spite of the subtle and sleek corporal built, women possess the courage and patience to handle even the hefty and the most difficult tasks. Quick initiative from Indian men is required to share the domestic responsibilities, before it is too late… before they lose the angels from their lives! Extend your hand of help to your lady who does not really require the machines to carry out the chores but your love and cooperation.

Men have to take the pledge to combat their uncanny behaviour and appreciate the women for their multi-tasking skills at home and work. Hats-off to the “Indian women” who far more deserve the worth than the Indian men present!

“I am writing for #IsLaundryOnlyAWomansJob activity at BlogAdda.com in association with Ariel.”


* Author of this post reserves rights for the written content source being original work of art. Please do not copy without permission. ©Jyotika Rajput Mehra

* This post is purely based on the author’s feelings and perception, the purpose of which is to encourage everybody in the family to share the load of domestic work. It is a gentle reminder for all the men to take care of the health and happiness of their beloved woman who works perfectly even under pressure. Realise this fact before it is too late, realise it before there is an irrecoverable damage to HER health!